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Authentic Male Journey, True Self & false self

False self

The false self is the self that needs to be built. It is the energy in all of us that says something like: “I need to get a degree”; “I need to get married”; “I have to figure this problem out, or I will end up looking like a fool”; “I need to learn a useful occupation”; “I need to be useful”.

This self has been present within us, all of our lives. Until to the point when something hits us and questions come up: “What was all that for?”; “Why am I doing what I am doing?”; “Why do I have to fit in?”. The false self responds: “Don’t be ridiculous, you are doing what you are supposed to do. That is life. There is not more than that to do. Get up and do some work, before you get in trouble”. And so we go to work, we pay our bills, we watch TV, we talk chit chat (or shit chat), we follow what society requires from us over and over again. And we go on living with our false selves.

True Self

On the other hand, the True Self is the self that you have always been, even before your own existence here on Earth. It is your Soul. It comes from your Heart. The True Self requires nothing from you, and he/she is always happy and content with you just BEING the one you have always been. Our society is so addicted to the false self, that we all forget to live in our True Selves. Normally, the True Self comes up in moments of great wonder like: that feeling of awe after we watch a great movie; that moment when we stop and realise how beautiful the sunset is; when we are enjoying the presence of our friends over a meal, or over a coffee; and so on.

False and True Self Integration

In reality the false self and the True Self compliment each other. The false self is not ‘the evil one’. It is just not the True Self. The problem arises when we live an unbalanced life, bending always toward to the side of the ‘false self’, and, consequently, totally disconnected from our True Selves.

Without the false self I would not be writing this blog; I would not have done the Masters in Counselling; I would not have come to Australia; I would not have a computer or a mobile; and I would not feel sad and lonely sometimes, which are the feelings that would lead me to the Path. The false self is necessary for life, and must be cultivated, as long as the individual knows of the existence of the ‘True Self’ and that there is a path that integrates both selves together. Living with the dominance of the ‘false self’ for more than four decades has led many men to struggle with their mental health  (e.g. depression, anxiety, PTSD, and others), and causing  many of them take their own life ( suicide).

Authentic Self

My counselling expertise is geared toward the path of integration between the false and the True Self. I call this path ‘The Authentic Male Journey’. It is the journey that will lead to your Authentic Self by awakening your awareness of who you have always been.

I am Felipe Oliveira, holder of a Masters in Counselling with almost seven years of experience in the Authentic Male Journey myself. Feel free to contact me by mobile, e-mail or social media for an informal chat or to book a session.

Published on 04/04/2017

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