In the fourth decade of life, a midlife crisis or crisis of limitations (Rohr’s term) is more likely to happen. It is the moment where we all feel discomfort in “acknowledging that high school graduation occurred more than twenty years ago” (Kraft, 2000, p. 109). It is the moment where deep, meaningful and reflective questions show up like: “is our past dreams, goals, and ideals have been fulfilled or unfulfilled? Have my personal and professional goals been reached? Have I truly lived according to my values and ideals? Have I grown? Am I growing? Have I made a significant contribution to life? Have I stop dreaming?” (Kraft, 2000, p.109).
The midlife crisis or ‘midlife desert’ (as Kraft like to name it) “is permeated with the dreadful and redeeming experience of limits. Initially, we experience the limits of our physical selves” (Kraft, 2000,p.110).
This is a glimpse of midlife crisis and its challenges. Kraft - professor of psychology in USA who focuses on at the area of integrating psychology and spirituality from an existential-phenomenological perspective - divides the second half of life in midlife adulthood (39 to 49 years), middle-aged adulthood (49 to 59 years), and the elder years (60 years to above).
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Due to our physical manifestation, “we first become aware of our psychospiritual changes. Fatigue, weakness, tension, and depression are indications that something has happened and is happening. Such experiences speak to us, and we can listen to them. Weariness may mean that we have been overactive. Tension and anxiety may be telling us that we are overextended and fragmented. Depression may be saying that we have lost our spirit in our frenetic pursuit to “make it” (or be successful and look smart). The limits of our physical selves may be telling us to seek more than the limited” (Kraft, 2000,p.110). (That’s when some grief work might be necessary).
Join the club, brother.
Kraft, W.F., 2000. Ways of the Desert: Becoming holy through difficult times. New York: Haworth.