It is important to say that the fears are all connected with the wound of the heart, which generates pain, and with that, it creates the specific fear that led one to act in a certain way, forming his personality. It is as if our personality (not our True Selves) has been created out of fear. This makes me think that is what we are so afraid of: if we let go our fear, what will we become without our personality? The fear of not knowing is so intense, that most people (including myself) create an addictive system based on insecurities where it is accepted and perceived as useful and normal. That is well explored by the movie Matrix when Morpheus says that the human race is so trapped that they are willing to protect and ready to die for the system.
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Another important point is the similarities between anxiety and fear. In my opinion, they are almost tween sisters. I have said before that anxiety is the fear of not knowing, and the fear of the future. When I wrote about loneliness, I spoke about the loneliness anxiety which is the fear of being abandoned. As you can see, fear, anxiety, loneliness, aloneness are all part of the same family. They are very close to each other.
Kraft was the one that clarifies the difference between fear and anxiety. He says that “in contrast to anxiety, fear is usually a response to a particular person, place, or event. Anxiety is more general and free-floating, where fear is usually specific and concrete. Since we are fearful of something, we can often articulate and manage fear” (2000, p. 50).
He claims that fear and anxiety are one of the many ‘desert languages’, and each one has a positive aspect. I would complement saying that it would only work positively if one is awake and aware enough to develop self-knowledge from it.
Kraft, William F. 2000. The Ways of the Desert: Becoming Holy Through Difficult Times.